It’s no surprise that moving house is one of the top two, it’s always such a worry,
from the financial side to a sale falling through, to get all of your belongings packed up,
not to mention the actual move day itself. But would you be surprised to hear that planning
a wedding is also right up there on the scale of the most stressful things to do? 😧
Stress can manifest in lots of different ways – maybe you become short-tempered or overly emotional 🙄, perhaps you stop eating, or maybe you start to get headaches or break out in spots, or perhaps your stress manifests itself in the form of anxiety.
Anxiety can be described as a feeling of unease or dread; it can be a reaction to stressful or dangerous situations and can range from being pretty mild to a crippling psychological or physiological response.
There are many other symptoms and it is possible to experience just one or many of them at the same time when struggling with anxiety.
The key is recognising the signs, understanding what is causing the anxiety and then working to minimise the effects so that you can continue with life and your wedding planning💗 without becoming poorly.
Well, if we haven’t met- then Hi, I’m Schuggie, and I run the multi-award-winning Schuggies-Ceilidhs (it’s pronounced ShUUg- eee s – Kay-Leas btw🎉).
I’ve been hosting wedding ceilidhs since 2012, and that means I’ve experienced well over 150 in all sorts of themes and venues. So I’ve experienced my fair share of anxious brides, grooms, best men and bridesmaids. All had coping strategies, and I even suggested a few.
I think the key is not to bottle it up, or if you observe your better half should the behaviours I’m talking about in this blog. Tackle it. Don’t just leave it. And if you need any help- even if its just an ear to bounce off- book a chat or give me a shout.
If you already know that you are prone to stress or anxiety and that it affects you in an adverse way, then it’s time to break out your tool kit to ensure that you protect your physical and mental health. Understanding yourself and being prepared are key to a smoother journey as you plan your wedding and deal with any bumps in the road.
If, on the other hand, this is something that is new to you or that has escalated 📈 and become worse as you approach planning your wedding then here are some tips on how you can minimise your anxiety levels.
Having a plan that you can work to can help you to focus on just one thing at a time and can help to keep the feelings of overwhelm at bay. Just remember to be realistic when you create that plan. Allocate a little extra time where possible so that you have breathing space if any problems do crop up.
Getting your thoughts, fears, and feelings out of your head and onto paper can be a powerful way to help you to process how you are feeling and give you some additional perspective on the situation. The process of taking some time out to journal can also bring some calm to your day. Try doing this at the start or end of each day, or just when you recognise that you are starting to feel anxious about a situation.
What most of us take for granted and put no conscious effort into, breathing in and out, can be a powerful tool when used correctly. Head on over to YouTube and search for box breathing, there are lots of great tutorials which explain exactly how to do it and what the benefits are. Studies into box breathing have shown that it can help to lower stress levels, lower levels of cortisol in the blood, clear the mind and reduce your heart rate back to a normal pace.
It’s important during any time of stress that you set aside some time for yourself, a time where you can focus on your own wellbeing. This could be a simple as a cup of tea in the garden whilst you listen to the birds sing, a relaxing bubble bath with a good book, or it could be a day at the spa. The important thing here is that it is time for YOU.
You don’t have to do it all and you certainly don’t have to do it by yourself. Overwhelming, the sense of having too much to do and not enough time to do it is often a trigger for anxiety. You can head this off by enlisting the help of a good wedding planner, someone that will help you to create your perfect day but who will take much of the pressure away from you.
But if you are someone who doesn’t wish to hire a planner or has constraints on their budget – simply reaching out to bridesmaids, mothers of the bride and groom and any of the other members of the bridal party will usually be met with lots of offers of help and support. Of course, there are other things that you could get help with, like chores around the house, getting the food shopping done or anything that will help take off some of the pressure.
Anxiety can sneak up out of nowhere so take stock of how you feel on a regular basis, get plenty of rest and don’t be afraid to ask for help from others.💙💚💛🧡💜
You’re now well on your way. What else is stressing you out? What else is on your planning list?
Are you cringing at the thought of the speeches? Have you read my blog on the subject?
Wedding speeches can be a daunting task. The pressure to say something meaningful and funny at the same time, in front of all your loved ones, may cause you sleepless nights. This blog will give you some tips on what to do if this is your situation.
And then there’s the thought of the first dance- followed by tumbleweed on the dance floor!
I’m the perfect solution! I’m a multi-award-winning Ceilidh-Caller based in the East Midlands. I specialise in providing high-quality authentic Scottish style (well I am from Inverness in the Highlands of Scotland) ceilidhs with a contemporary twist. I’ve been involved in the wedding industry since 2012, so that’s a shedload of weddings.
I know how to make sure everyone has a great time.
You can put your trust in me to provide everything from a Ceilidh DJ set with dance instructions right the way through to a bouncing live music Ceilidh band more!
Want to do some more research, read my blog How Much Does A Ceilidh Band Cost?
I haven’t even mentioned how great a ceilidh is as a first dance, you can read more about that in this Blog- Ceilidhs Dance- Your First Dance Alternative.
Then if you’re interested in learning more contact me today! Click here to book a chat about your wedding ceilidh🎵
My prices and packages are all up front here on my website. If there isn’t something on my website that fits your needs just let me know so we can customise a package for you today!
You can click here to check my availability and secure your date📅
Shouldn’t planning the rest of your wedding be this easy?
Every dance called, everyone included — and a full dancefloor all night.